Toxic Relationships – support for recognizing narcissistic abuse and tips for getting out

CLICK HERE TO HEAR THE PODCAST: Toxic relationships can be a nightmare to disengage from – and the trauma is so harmful to the children. Brook Olsen’s work focuses on helping people disengage, and in Episode 201 of the High Conflict Coparenting podcast, he interviews me for any tips I have to contribute. In our conversation I address the cult of one-on-one and how viewing narcissistic abuse through the lens of cult dynamics can shed light on both recognizing toxic relationships, and getting out of them.

The Challenge and Reward of Accepting Help

Yesterday was a rough day – which was transformed when I ACCEPTED two offers of support. It was not even the errands themselves (though they were both delicious and useful) as much as the wonderful feeling that people care enough to do these big little things – which brought a wave of gratitude that lasted … Read more

The Cult Vault Podcast #138 features Nicola Ranson’s memoir, “A Slice of Orange” and explores what led her to guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh – and beyond

The Cult Vault podcast episode 138 is on “A Slice of Orange” – my memoir about my time with guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh in India and Oregon, and my life leading up to that and beyond. I was thrilled to be interviewed by someone so willing to explore the nuances of the book – and … Read more


Twice this past week someone gave me Mary Oliver’s “Wild Geese” poem that begins: “You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body Love what it loves.” That “only” … Read more