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Belonging is What the Eucalyptus Offers for Healing in my New Book, “Plant Talk – When the Tree Hugs You Back”

March 23, 2023 by Nicola Ranson

Belonging is a core need. I have found this to be true in my research on healing (as well as in cult recovery) and of course, in life. I didn’t know that the Eucalyptus would agree. But when I asked it about healing, it replied with a heart-warming offer: “What you really long for is … Read more

PLEASE STAY! An Urgent Message to Someone Contemplating Suicide

November 19, 2022 by Nicola Ranson

If you are right on the edge and in danger of suicide don’t read further. Instead, call 911 or the national suicide prevention hotline: 988 . If you are outside the US call your emergency number – that’s what they are there for and this is an emergency. There are people out there ready to … Read more

Ulcerative Colitis Changed My Life

September 11, 2022 by Nicola Ranson

Ulcerative colitis did change my life. But perhaps not in the way the doctor meant. “When I was fifteen, my doctor told me, ‘You can’t be like other people. You will never live a normal life.’ I refused to accept this grim prediction. No. That would not be my future.” This is an excerpt from … Read more

Toxic Relationships – support for recognizing narcissistic abuse and tips for getting out

August 15, 2022 by Nicola Ranson

CLICK HERE TO HEAR THE PODCAST: Toxic relationships can be a nightmare to disengage from – and the trauma is so harmful to the children. Brook Olsen’s work focuses on helping people disengage, and in Episode 201 of the High Conflict Coparenting podcast, he interviews me for any tips I have to contribute. In our conversation I address the cult of one-on-one and how viewing narcissistic abuse through the lens of cult dynamics can shed light on both recognizing toxic relationships, and getting out of them.

The Challenge and Reward of Accepting Help

January 30, 2022 by Nicola Ranson

Yesterday was a rough day – which was transformed when I ACCEPTED two offers of support. It was not even the errands themselves (though they were both delicious and useful) as much as the wonderful feeling that people care enough to do these big little things – which brought a wave of gratitude that lasted … Read more

PLANT TALK – The Ficus advocates good company and safe surroundings as the recipe for healing

April 18, 2025January 16, 2022 by Nicola Ranson

Sometimes these messages from the trees are a bit obscure. I get the piece about safety and good company – but what is this ficus trying to say about healing? Perhaps it is normalizing pain and looking at the bigger picture. Yes, that’s what trees have to offer: a taller perspective. But I need more … Read more

Ways to Get a Shift in Perspective for the New Year

January 9, 2022 by Nicola Ranson

My Word Bath for the New Year shares two ways to get a shift in perspective – well, three if you count the rearview mirror! I learned in psychotherapy that peripheral vision can often give me more accurate information than staring at someone head-on. It softens the focus so that I can see – and … Read more

The Cult Vault Podcast #138 features Nicola Ranson’s memoir, “A Slice of Orange” and explores what led her to guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh – and beyond

December 3, 2021 by Nicola Ranson

The Cult Vault podcast episode 138 is on “A Slice of Orange” – my memoir about my time with guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh in India and Oregon, and my life leading up to that and beyond. I was thrilled to be interviewed by someone so willing to explore the nuances of the book – and … Read more

HOPE

October 22, 2021 by Nicola Ranson

Twice this past week someone gave me Mary Oliver’s “Wild Geese” poem that begins: “You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body Love what it loves.” That “only” … Read more

Cult recovery involves dismantling belief systems

October 6, 2021 by Nicola Ranson

The collapse of a belief system is hell at the time – but eventually I found it an enormous gift. Of course another one moves in fast to replace it, but just for a moment there is a pause when we get to see outside the bubble that each of us lives in.