Toxic Relationships – support for recognizing narcissistic abuse and tips for getting out

CLICK HERE TO HEAR THE PODCAST: Toxic relationships can be a nightmare to disengage from – and the trauma is so harmful to the children. Brook Olsen’s work focuses on helping people disengage, and in Episode 201 of the High Conflict Coparenting podcast, he interviews me for any tips I have to contribute. In our conversation I address the cult of one-on-one and how viewing narcissistic abuse through the lens of cult dynamics can shed light on both recognizing toxic relationships, and getting out of them.


Twice this past week someone gave me Mary Oliver’s “Wild Geese” poem that begins: “You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body Love what it loves.” That “only” … Read more

Survivor’s Guilt

My young friend Emily wrote: I was walking on the street near my university when a man pulled up beside me in his car. He said he was an undercover cop and asked me to get in because he had a few questions. I remembered all my mother’s advice, refused and informed the police. Later … Read more